Friday, February 26, 2010

Leap of Faith

I have been waiting to write this post since I started my blog. I have been waiting to say these words for a year and a half.

Donald has a full-time job.

He accepted the offer this week. He's signing the lease on our new apartment this morning. I gave notice at my current job yesterday. We are moving in mid-March. We are starting our lives again.

I didn't write this post the minute he received his job offer because it was a mixed experience. He was offered a different position from the one he had been doing on contract, which really surprised us. It was like he had lost a job and been offered a job in the same moment, a moment filled with disappointment and confusion rather than joy and relief.

It didn't help that I was home alone and that he was a three-hour drive away. That evening was especially difficult because we were physically apart. It is so hard to make life-changing decisions when you cannot look each other in the eye, when you cannot hold hands, when you cannot give or receive hugs.

Since that difficult moment, however, we have re-rooted ourselves in what is most important. The job is still with the same company. It will further Donald's career. He will still get to work with his amazing coworkers, just not as closely. He still has the chance to get the position he wants next year (it wasn't in the budget this year).

And he HAS A JOB! We can move forward! We can move out of his parents' home and get a dog and have our own lives again.

We weren't exactly going to say "no, thanks".

We are taking a leap of faith. We trust this company to do right by Donald and our family. We trust that our scramble to find housing has resulted in an apartment that will be "good enough". It might even be great. We chose location over space and I think it was the right choice.

Somehow we had gotten it into our heads that this moment, the one we have been waiting for for so long, would be nothing but happiness, relief, and the end of compromises. As I type that, it seems clearly silly. But that's what we expected. And that's why it wasn't obvious right away that this was real, that we really were doing something good. That compromising didn't mean that it wasn't what we should do.

We are SO excited. We are taking our next steps with our eyes open, our hearts forward, and we are leaping feet first into this next adventure.

Won't you come with us?


  1. So happy for you both. New beginnings always have such exciting energy attached to them. Enjoy this adventure. You can bet I'll join you.

  2. Jill - Thank you so much! I look forward to sharing our new adventure with you!

  3. Woo! I'm so glad to hear it's official! Do you feel like you've been holding your breath and suddenly, you're breathing fresh new air, full of opportunities and possibilities? That's how it feels for me.

    Count me in!

  4. Hi Daphne - absolutely sure will be with you .. in thought, word and deed - though at a distance and typed deed at that.

    How excellent and how wonderful that it's all worked out .. in different ways to those you expected - but worked out.

    It's given you a chance to start again .. to enjoy those things you've been missing, to be together to be at home, to be at peace .. to live, to laugh, to love ... and the dog - 3rd party!!

    My dog in South Africa on New Year's Eve one year - put hmself between my new man and me - and that was the end of it .. the dog won - bless him - wouldn't have been right - so the dog was absolutely correct in his decision making .. not with you though, you're a couple already .. the dog is the walker ..!!

    Enjoy everything the anticipating, the decision making and Ihope all is peaceful for the move ..

    Hilary - hugs through it all ...

  5. Hi Daphne! YAY for you two! You betcha I'll be there to hear about all your new adventures! I wish you much joy!

  6. Congratulations! So happy that the moment you've been waiting for has arrived. It doesn't matter that it doesn't feel the way you expected it to, as long as it feels "right". You're in for some massive changes again. I wish you all the best in your journey and I will definitely be there with you. Good luck!

  7. Congratulations! What an exciting new adventure!

  8. Jessica - Yay, indeed! Thanks!

    Kate - It really is like I can breathe again. Thanks for your support!

    Hilary - It has been a long time coming and I am so glad that it is here now.

    suzen - Thank you! I'll look forward to sharing more!

    PrincessKate - Thank you so much! Each day that passes makes it even more right. Thanks for the good wishes!

    Taylor - Thank you so much!

  9. Daphne - sometimes the very best decisions begin with fear and anxiety. I'm very excited for the both of you and look forward to reading of your adventures! =)

  10. Mindy - Thank you so much! I think you're right, that some of the most important decisions are not easy ones. I look forward to having you along for the ride!

  11. Daphne, I am so happy for you and Donald. Congratulations! Many blessings for the journey ahead of you! Have FUN!

  12. Jodi - Thank you so much! Things are unfolding well and I'm definitely hoping for some fun. I appreciate your support.


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