Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Acceptance Versus Need For Change

If I learn to accept everything for what it is and simply go with the flow, does that mean that nothing needs to change?

Isn't the impetus for change a judgment that something is inadequate or wrong?

Can a balance be struck between acceptance and gratitude and the need for positive change?

Acceptance and gratitude lead to so many wonderful things. They decrease stress and anxiety. They improve mood and contentment.

Too much acceptance, however, could lead to complacency or apathy. If we simply accept everything as "that's just the way it is", don't we lose our responsibility and power?

Alternatively, constant change can be quite disruptive and unstable. Dissatisfaction with everything around us can lead to unhappiness and low self-esteem.

Perhaps this is another time we learn that everything should be done in moderation. Balance gratitude for what we have with gratitude for seeing opportunity for improvement. Balance acceptance of our failures with acceptance of responsibility over what we can control. Balance change with breathing and calm.

That said, if there is something you really want to be able to do (singing, crafting, writing, etc.), you are the only one standing in your way. I do not believe that talent is the only thing that makes people good at something.

If you have the passion, find the determination and the tools to make it happen. Make a choice.

Acceptance. Gratitude. Change.


  1. I wanted to add here that Ian at Quantum Learning wrote a post recently about avoiding judging and some great suggestions about what to do instead. It's at http://www.quantumlearning.pl/how-to-fully-enjoy-life. Enjoy!

  2. This is beautifully written. I like the part about balancing acceptance with gratitude and responsibity and balancing gratitude with acceptance of opportunity and failure and breathing and calm. What a wise way to handle difficulty. It reminds me a bit of the Serenity Prayer.

  3. Tess - Thank you so much! I think often of the Serenity Prayer when trying to balance what I have control over and what I do not. Thank you for stopping by!


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